Alone in a crowd

It took me a few weeks to bring myself to the point of being able to even get myself to church, walk up the stairs and choose a seat. The first week home the thought of being in the middle of so many people who love me and want to enter in about sent me into a panic attack. Clue: not ready yet.

The second week I made some motions toward getting myself ready to go. I started the process too late and everything took a ridiculously long time so I didn’t make it. I was fine with that. Decision made.

Week three came and I found myself desiring to be present in church. “I’m ready”, I thought to myself. “I’ve got this. It might be hard, but that’s okay.” I thought being with so many people would be hard, answering questions, having people wondering how I was.

Turns out that wasn’t what was hard at all.

This is the view from church. Photo cred. Joel Carlson

What was hard was finding a spot by myself. A wave of aloneness swept over me. Having Josh and Sam gone or sitting elsewhere in the room didn’t phase me; that was often the case. But Scott, Kaitlyn, Zach and I were side by side nearly every week. Together. I could hear them singing. I watched them take notes or struggle to stay awake. We did it together.

Suddenly, I was alone in a crowd. I was sitting with friends, surrounded by people who care deeply for me, but I felt alone.

I miss taking care of the little ones in the nursery with Zach. He loved the time together and with the busy small people. I miss seeing Kaitlyn with her Bible open, taking notes. I miss holding hands with Scott whenever we prayed or having his arm around my waist as we sang.

But I made it. One more first.

3 thoughts on “Alone in a crowd

  1. You write so beautifully, Julie. Your vulnerability gives me a glimpse into your loss and has taken the mystery, or should I say fear, out of going through grief…. something we all will have to face at some point in our lives. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. I sat here crying thinking about how it feels to make this move. A first down friend. Grief just grabs us at unexpected times. Thank you sharing this walk with us.

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  2. I pictured you there. As someone who often sits alone at church (but not for the same reason), it can be a bit daunting. The community of the room provides comfort. My favorite theme is your love for children. You are so very good at that.

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